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A corollary to this could be, "It's a certainty that families hate to talk about death and money." Discussing money seems to be a challenging subject for even the most talkative families. A study showed that 44% of respondents found money the most challenging topic to talk about, more than religion, politics, or even death. Yet, talking about money with others, especially family members, could help avoid significant financial problems. Parents of adult children face two crucial money conversations – your money and their money. ## **Conversation One: Your Money** When talking to adult children about your money, the discussions may involve one or more of the following options: 1. Assuring them that you have your current financial affairs in order 2. Conversely, talking to them honestly if money is a problem 3. Dealing with the financial support of adult children 4. The financial plan for your estate after death ## **Showing Your Cards** Communicating your current financial status can be valuable in avoiding surprises in the future. However, if your situation is stable, it may not be so important. In that case, it might only send a message that you feel confident everything is under control, and they need not worry. In situations where you're experiencing money problems, letting your adult children in on your financial condition can make sense. As scary or embarrassing as it sounds, revealing your shaky financial cards could benefit both parties. Your children may be able to help in some way. At the very least, they will not be surprised if they need to become more involved in your financial affairs in an emergency. ## **The Money Faucet** The decision to financially support adult children balances your perception of their actual needs versus needing them to experience life's hard knocks. This balance differs from family to family. External forces also come into play. The Pew Research Center reported that, in 2020, the COVID-19 pandemic pushed the percentage of young adults living with their parents to 52%, a level not seen since the 1930s Depression. If your adult child depends on you financially, ensure clear expectations are established about that support. Setting a deadline for ending the support will help motivate different behaviors. If your adult children lack knowledge about how to handle money, direct them to resources where they can learn how to manage their finances better. Online money managers like Personal Capital, or YNAB, can be helpful not only as sources of information but also as tools to support positive financial habits. 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However, simply preparing a will and any other related legal instrument like a trust does not finish the job. Your adult children need to know, at least at a high level, what they contain. Communicating this information while you are living allows time to clarify your intentions if questions arise. If adult children are not happy with your decisions, you will have a chance to explain your reasoning. Despite their best intentions, many find it difficult to talk about this important topic with their adult children. One way to gracefully start the discussion is to choose a milestone event like a significant birthday or the passing of a friend. It will seem less awkward to broach the subject in such situations. ## **Conversation Two: Their Money** The first conversation about your money is essential. The second conversation about your adult children’s money is optional, especially if your adult children are not financially dependent on you. Passing along your hard-won financial knowledge may seem like a great idea, and your adult children may be open to hearing your words of wisdom. On the other hand, you may also get the proverbial rolling of the eyes response if the listeners perceive they already know it all. The fact is, however, that financial literacy among younger people tends to be low. A 2020 study found that only 18% of millennials (ages 18-37) could correctly answer three basic questions about saving and investing. One way to help your adult children learn more is to suggest personal financial management tools like those mentioned above. Also, many popular personal finance books and websites target young adults. For example, the Motley Fool website takes an irreverent approach to money matters that appeals to all knowledge levels. 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